I have an ex boss who always has to patronize me in a group settings ever since I got a promotion to be on his level professionally. If we are in a group, how do I make everyone see that he’s being an asshole? I don’t want to say “stop being patronizing” as that might kill the mood in group events and make me look like someone who’s blowing things out of proportion. This happens a lot though, so they wouldn’t realize how frequent it is.

I was good in HS, almost a straight a student minus 2 Bs. Built up a mechanical engineering background and was part of student council and the robotics club. When I got to college I failed all my classes the first semester, and failed again 2 more times. I’ve been working minimum wage jobs since then. I had a savings account with 5000$ when I was 18, it’s barely above 1000$ rn. I practiced guitar in my spare time since I was 7, I tried to put a band together but it fell through within a month, and I barely have equipment to record my own music with any decent quality. I can play songs like running with the devil and bohemian rhapsody but in recording / mixing they sound like shit.

I guess what I’m asking is, is there any point in trying to chase either dream of becoming a engineer or a musician if I have nothing to show for it after trying for 6 years. I feel like I’m destined to either join the 27 club or end up a homeless drug addict. My friends all say they support me but they’re all telling me I have to motivate and believe in myself. In fact, my most recent ex broke up with me for that exact reason. How can I believe in myself when no one else is willing to? And again how can I expect to support myself when no one else cares?

Obviously not like you're playing soccer and trying to score a goal, more like firm, non-destructive kick that changes the object's trajectory to meet the inevitable floor at an angle and reduce the stress of impact. Move like you _could_ catch the object with your foot and you'll probably be fine. Saved countless pieces of tableware this way and, just today, a falling box of frozen spinach at work. Nothing big but maybe something some people have never thought about :)

Edit: As u/MaximumDerpification put it, kick the falling object like it was a hacky sack, fits the feeling of it way better than what I wrote

Edit 2: Please don't try to catch a knife with any part of your body

My dog (11.5 years old hungarian vizsla) had to be put down today because of internal bleeding caused by tumors in his liver and other organs.

I don't wanna get into too much detail but he basically broke down over the course of the last 5 days, making this situation feel very rapid and kind of unreal.

How do I get over the fact that I'm not going to wake up every day to him wagging his tail and bobbing his cute head besides my bed and him not greeting me playfully and very happy every time I come home?

Maybe it's all too soon and I'll feel better eventually? But I also never really had to deal with this type of pain since I'm quite young.

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I appreciate all the advice and I'll answer any questions you have.

I have CRPS from an injury 13 years ago and for 7 years I’ve been fainting. The past 2 years I’ve been injuring myself (head injury, broken tailbone and severely broken clavicle that is a non union) and 3 doctors dismissed me. They said “did anyone witness this” and in their notes basically said I was a head case. Finally one was caught on camera and everything changed but it’s ridiculous I had to go through that, having to prove a symptom that has caused bones to break. Well after my own research I demanded several heart tests (thinking I had POTS) they wanted to just call it POTS with no tests. After wearing a heart monitor for a week it turns out I have actual heart issues (4 different issues). It pisses me off because it’s been so long and my heart has weakened because of it. None of them are going to apologize and that pisses me off too.

He has a really hard time getting around because he has really bad knees and hips. He’s had two hip replacement surgeries and needs his knees replaced as well.

He has really bad mental health issues and pretty much no friends. (He’s basically a grumpy old man). I’m worried about him.

He likes: Animals, sports, coaching, old westerns, history documentaries, fishing, travel.

I’ve looking into all the cliche ideas like bird watching, gardening, crocheting, etc but he needs friends and he would never do those anyways.

Any idea??

This week, I joined a new company in a senior content manager position. Honestly, I had no idea that the interview was for a management position until I got the offer letter. I was a little taken aback. Just seeing that title got me pretty nervous.

I'm in a new country. I'm nervous as hell because content is always so subjective and I feel like I'll make a fool of myself and look dumb. This company is dealing with some well known brand names.

I did have a written test during the interview process but I'm not sure why that qualified for a management position. I'm a decent writer but I'm so scared that I'll seem dumb and I feel like an imposter.

I know I'm being hard on myself because it's only like day 3 at the job. But does anyone else have any tips or advices on how I can handle this better?

Whenever you crave a fizzy drink, first have a big glass of water and say to yourself "after I drink this glass of water, if I still crave a fizzy drink, I'm going to have it" and mean it... mean it 100%.

After you drink that big glass of water, if you still crave a fizzy drink, have it. Not kidding, have it without any remorse. You'll see that 99 times out of 100 you'll be satisfied and won't feel that urge.

Note: You have to drink a big glass of water, a small one won't suffice.

A quote from Maya Angelou that is appropriate

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

If you want someone to like you, don't try to impress them, try to make them feel good. And in a group setting if you make one person feel good, the other people present will also subconsciously think of you as someone they want to further interact with because they'll feel good after doing so.

You can brag and share your stories another time, over time, once they are already interested in hearing what you have to say. Think about it - if you want to form a relationship/friendship/whatever then you'll have plenty of time to talk about yourself. But to start a relationship the best way is to make them feel good about themselves when they're around you. (and always keep this up btw)

edit: bonus point - if you have interesting things to talk about (I'm sure you do) then when you dont talk about yourself much for a few interactions and eventually get asked with genuine curiosity and you answer with some interesting shit, they will consider you humble and be even more impressed by whatever it is you shared.

For relationships to work, feelings need to be mutual and close to equitable. Otherwise, you are often more into your fantasy version of them, not the real person. People sense this and it can be very off-putting to be the source of someones infatuation.

I have tried the custom mouthguard based on my own teeth impression with 16% peroxide, and unfortunately, it seems that I am out of luck because my teeth are either naturally yellow in color, or my enamel is gone, making the yellow color permanent because my teeth color did not get brighter at all. I also tried Crest OTC whitestrips twice and both times failed. And yes I did make sure to have a deep clean from my dentist before doing the whitening! Should I essentially give up on having white teeth and a bright smile?

Also my dentist was telling me that higher percentage hydrogen peroxide in teeth whitening gel does not necessarily whiten better, it just works faster. I asked him if I should dry the 40%+ peroxide instead of the 16% i am currently on and thats what he told me... using a lower concentration gel for a longer duration (e.g. 16% for 4-6 hours) can achieve similar levels of whitening as a brief application of high concentration gel (e.g 44% for 20-30 mins). Over extended periods, both concentrations will likely reach similar maximal whitening levels, the higher percentage product just gets there faster.

Is that true guys? Should i give up on whitening? :(

Been at my job for 3 years, and for the past year and half things have gone from down hill to straight off a cliff. My manager was fired, two other managers have quit, and we barely have enough staff to keep things running. I need this job for my bills and for my health insurance. The obvious answer is to leave, of course, but the job market is shit and I have no clue where I could even go. At this point my only solution is to grin and bear it. Any tips on how to be able to stay sane when everything is falling apart would be greatly appreciated.

I can't count how many times I've left my apartment a mess before I went on vacation. Packing/getting ready took too long because my time management can sometimes suck. However, this time, I made sure I did my laundry and cleaned up the entire apartment.

When I got home, my sheets were clean and the only mess I made was unpacking. It felt glorious. I will make sure to always clean before leaving, whenever possible.

Whenever I wake up from naps or sleep in general, I am bombarded constantly by negative thoughts and general anxiety about myself and my future. It doesn't help that I am in kind of a rough phase in my life currently, and am also going through a breakup, but this has been happening from before the breakup as well. I cannot get these thoughts out of my head and they pester me for a good half an hour or hour after I wake. The only thing that seems to work is upbeat music, but listening to music gets tiring for me after a while. Can anyone help me with this?

Well for me it was my CPAP machine.

I didn't realize I have sleep apnea, and had always felt tired during the day time. This caused low motivation and refusal to do things complicated.

After a week of CPAP, I feel significantly better in every way.

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Thank you all for your input!

Tried sleeping on my side and nose strips but they don’t work that well for me.

My friends and I enjoy playing board games, but we often encounter a problem where some players, including myself, become extremely frustrated, leading to heated arguments. I struggle with getting overly frustrated and angry.

Can you provide a life pro tip on how to remain calm during intense board game sessions?

I wake up pretty much terrified every morning. Sometimes I am convinced I've lost my job and my family is going to be homeless, other times it's just thinking I'm late for work but my reaction is absolute terror. They are baseless fears now but I did recently suffer a year of workplace bullying and a sudden job loss. It feels over dramatic to say I have PTSD but my physical reaction to waking up is so extreme I do wonder...

First off, it sounds like an order, and no one who's going through a tough time emotionally wants to be bossed around.

Second, it can come off as if you're annoyed at them, which isn't good for obvious reasons.

If you really feel the need to implore them to relax, something like "Try to calm down for me, okay?" along with "It's going to be okay, I'm here for you" is far better, and I'm sure others can suggest even better ways to phrase it.

Remember, how you say things is just as important as, if not more important than what you say.

My ex recently ended our marriage of 10 years, and I think there is no way back. I've known her for 18 years, ever since I was 17. My entire adult life was centered around her and our relationship, and I feel completely lost and aimless.

I simply can't get it out of my head. Every single thing, object or place in my life reminds me of her, which causes a Lot of pain reminiscing on our love and relationship.

I just want to find a way to move on, to try to dissociate these memories from everything that sorrounds me.

What would be the best way to do so? I know it's not something that just goes away, but any advice on how to approach this would mean a lot

I have a colleague who has a bad habit of interrupting people while they are talking. It's annoying to see her interrupt my other colleagues, boss, and of course annoying when I am trying to say something and get spoken over.

What is the best way to politely approach this? We are a new team (only formed properly in the last 4 months) and so dynamics are good right now. It would be a shame to ruin that. I need a delicate way to try to stop this behaviour before it ruffles any more feathers. Any pro tips very welcome!

So recently life hasnt been the greatest for me . Everyday seems to be a repeat of the previous day. Wake up go to work, drug test, go to meetings go home and play video games or scroll on my phone . Not to mention how overwhelming shit can be . I'm currently on drug court right and in a halfway house . Between those 2 things , work and 4 required meetings a week as well as drug testing almost everyday and most of all staying sober it can be a bit much sometimes . Don't get me wrong tho I'm grateful for the improvements I've made in my life from 5-6 months ago . I was homeless , addicted to fentanyl and meth , and just hopeless to say the less. They say a life ain't a life until you live it and everyday it just seems like I'm doing my best just to get through the day. I don't have much friends and I have very little family around but they're still in active use so it's kinda hard to be around them . I really would like to have a love life of some sort, I think about it alot but I just be in my head so much about myself and all the obligations I have it seems almost impossible. I'm also kind of introverted and self conscious so that don't help at all . Idk I guess I'm just at this brick wall and it's starting to feel so draining and irritating. I know I should try new things and get out of my comfort zone more but that shit is difficult for me. I don't know what to do but everyday I try to be hopeful and optimistic that something new and good will come into my life but somedays everything gets to me, its a mood swing misery and that itself can be draining... idk I feel like I'm just rambling at this point but that's kinda close to how I be feeling everyday and I'm honestly just not having a good time bro...

Happened to me twice now. Had an issue with a company regarding a lost voucher or a booking from my banking account which they said was justified (It kinda was but there was some resentment on my end).

Most of the time if you stay friendly, accept the issue but state that you will cancel your membership and move to a competitor, support will fold and often help you to get your money back.

Don't let big corporations take money unjustifiably from you.